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A Very Long Engagement?
In a live chat, Prudie advises a woman whose sister-in-law demands she postpone her wedding.
Posted Tuesday, Oct 23, 2012, at 09:45 AM ET
Emily Yoffe, aka Dear Prudence, is on Washingtonpost.com weekly to chat live with readers. An edited transcript of the chat is below. (Sign up here to get Dear Prudence delivered to your inbox each week. Read Prudie's Slate columns here. Send questions to Prudence at firstname.lastname@example.org.)
Q. Sister-in-Law Wants Us To Postpone Our Wedding : My fiancé and I got engaged a few months back. A few months prior to that, his sister had announced her pregnancy. We felt it was a respectful length of time and announced our engagement. She was immediately seeing red and started being passive-aggressive to me. The problem? Our wedding is four months after her child's birth, and she feels like it should be at least a year later. My fiancé seems swayed by her argument. I've told him that even though she will be traveling for the wedding, there isn't much difference between traveling with a 4-month-old or a 1-year-old child. His sister is also already talking about having her second and third child soon. I asked him if we're expected to wait five years until all of her bundles are grown up before we can get married. I think she's just jealous because she feels her thunder has been stolen. She was the only girl growing up, and a spoiled one at that. I don't talk about the wedding in front of any of his family and try to keep all conversations focused on ...
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